The Confidence Code 세계 최고의 여성들은 왜 자신감에 집중할까

I spotted this book at a bookstore in Korea, its pink cover looked very splendid and caught my eyes. Then I found the original English book which is left above. I can't believe these books are the same. Korean people are really good at making differences.

I feel less confident than my husband, even on things that I know better than he does. I've been just thinking I'm less confident person. However this book explains that most women feel less confident, even very successful women because they think more and less act due to fears and worries.

The key message here is very simple.
Act more, think less, and stay authentic.

Working hard is not enough : Success depends more on confidence than competence.
Women tend to show confidence when they're competent enough.

Do more and think less
Women tend to worry too much, but taking action is the key to developing confidence.

Confidence is partly hard-wired which means our genes influence our confident level, but we can rewire our brains.

Why women are less confident than men.
Women tended to use both hemispheres of the brain more than men do which helps with multitasking. Yes! the fact is we, women are better at multitasking. However women tend to produce less serotonin and has more activitiy in brain regions linked with worry and stress. Men produce more testosteron which helps taking risks and focus on wining. It was A-ha moment, while Estrogen, female hormon encourages connecting with others and avoiding conflict and risk.
I have to increase serotonin level, and not to stimulate the worry and stress areas of my brain.

Confidence-building habits :
Taking reasonable risks, reframing limiting thoughts.


Do it your way :
Don't imitate men to be confident. We need to be authentic and express confidence that comes from our core.

I will try to think less and act more from now on.